“When a slave died we just dug a hole in the ground, built a fence around it, and piled him in. No singing, no preaching, or praying ever took place during slavery time. Maser would say, “Well he was a pretty good Negro. Guess he will go to heaven, all right.” And that was about all there was to a Negro funeral, then. We would not even shed a tear, because he was gone where there would not be any more slaves. That was all the slave thought about then: not being a slave. Because slavery time was hell.”~Mary Gaffney (former slave)
Students protesting outside of the Administration building due to delayed Financial Aid. The sign reads…. It’s Our Money, We Need it Now!
The Refund Check
Ahhh the Refund Check. For many of us, the biggest pay day we ever have while matriculating through college.
If you attend a white institution, your refund check is available for pick-up when you check into your dorm. If you’re at a black institution you’re lucky if it will be available for pick-up before Christmas.
Fast forward…after checking with Financial Aid a thousand times, cursing them out, having your mama curse them out, and protesting outside the administration building the check has finally come in. What do you do? Scratch that, what do WE do lol.… We go ahead and buy a few of those $500 a piece textbooks…for classes we end up dropping lol
For a minute we no longer have to eat Ramon Noodles or anything from the dollar menu. We go from eating beef flavored Ramon noodles to actual Steak. Shrimp flavored Ramon noodles to shrimp and sushi.
That car you couldn’t fill up the day before, now has rims, tint, and a system. Life is good and God is good.
Just be careful. If that refund check is based on student loans, do know you have to pay that money back with interest one day. And Sallie Mae… they want their money back plus interest, plus your soul, plus your kid’s soul lol… They don’t play!
Many companies conduct credit checks now, and base their hiring decision on the results. If you don’t pay back your student loans, you run the risk of ruining your credit. Before you know it, you won’t be able to get a decent job to pay off your debt because you are…. IN DEBT! Read that sentence again. Matter of fact let me repeat it. You won’t be able to get a decent job to pay off your student loan debt because you are in debt due to student loans f***ing up your credit. It’s a viscous cycle. You’ve been warned.
Frederick Douglass once said, “I prayed for twenty years but received no answer until I prayed with my legs.” For 20 years he was a slave. A slave yearning and praying for freedom. But freedom didn’t come until he took action. I repeat, until he took action.
How many us are praying for freedom from soul draining jobs, soul draining relationships, even our soul-draining selves (self-defeating thoughts, self-limitations, self-doubts). Well I come to you baring good news and bad news… Let’s do the bad news first. If you continue to pray, complain, and dwell on the things you don’t like…expect your situation to remain the same. BUT if you continue to pray, exalt gratitude rather than complaints, and move your legs, meaning take ACTION… freedom will come. God answers prayers and he will present new doors of opportunity. Stop trying to figure out how you can successfully both sit on the sofa watching tv in that old house (while time passes you and your dreams by) AND walk through new doors of opportunity. It’s impossible! In order to move to a new place you must leave the old place.
- You want a new job? Spend less time complaining about your current one, and spend more time applying for new jobs and networking.
- You want a meaningful healthy relationship? Stop being someone’s booty call.
- You want wealth? Save and invest your money and stop over-drawing your bank account on Jordan’s, weave, and expensive things that you can barely pronounce or let alone spell.
I prayed for twenty years but received no answer until I prayed with my legs.
*Disclaimer* Some of the things mentioned above, I myself am guilty of. As I transition to a new place, I’d like to take some of you with me. Let’s go! lol